What if the job you don’t like and feel stuck in is exactly where you’re supposed to be right now? What if that family member who is so difficult and so unappreciative is the very person you need in your life right now? What if the divorce, the layoff, the sickness is placed perfectly in your path? What if...
What if all of the events of our lives woven together actually make sense? We often look at events in isolation. We don’t yet see how they will all fit so very perfectly into the tapestry of our lives. To live with inner peace is to live by faith. Faith that all is in divine order. Faith in the unseen. Faith that every single event is going to work out in the end for our highest good if we choose to respond appropriately.
Let me tell you, this is easy to write. It is so much harder to live.
Recently I was reading Eat, Pray, Love again and Elizabeth Gilbert was talking about something which reminded me of this. The very circumstances in our lives which cause an extreme reaction (maybe one of jealousy, anger, sadness, etc.) are what we need to purify our souls...to help us lose our egos and become more compassionate, gracious and loving. I am also reminded of the Rumi quote,
“If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?”
God/the Divine/Spirit/whatever you want to call it, loves us too much to let us stay the way we are. Like sandpaper smoothing the imperfections out of the wood, so our souls are perfected through circumstances we find difficult. Most of us want to run from pain. I’m like this when I’m doing yoga and holding a pose for what seems like a long time. It can be painful. But, I’ve learned when I hold the stretch, the pain changes. It starts out very intense and slightly unbearable, but as I hold the stretch, the pain lessens. Then the next time I do the stretch, it’s easier. The pain changes as I work through it.
Pushing past the pain has taught me that the intense pain doesn’t last forever. It lasts for a moment. It’s temporary. It is there to help me become better. Will I choose to become bitter or better? I know what I’m choosing. How about you?